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Body Scan Meditation for Eating Disorders.

September 24, 2012 – 3:38 am

Body Scan Meditation includes going into a deep meditative state and scan your body while meditating. This kind of meditation not only slows down your brain waves, it also helps your brain to produce Oxytocin which is hormone of love and bonding .

Eating disorder sufferers don’t have enough of this hormone produced and that is why they have so much problems with love and bonding.

Now, how to do this meditation?

Make sure that you are not driving, not walking and not operate any machinery as we are going to go deep into a meditative state.

The purpose of this meditation is certainly not just to relax. The purpose is to know your body, to develop body awareness and awareness of your own thoughts and the mind. An equanimity, which is a term that means balance of the mind, composure, equilibrium. It means not reacting with either craving for what is pleasant ( food), or aversion for what is not pleasant. It means a form of acceptance, unconditional acceptance.

It is not a way of getting rid of unpleasant sensations. It is not a way of attracting pleasant sensations or pleasant experiences. It is a way of learning to accept whatever is there and get on with life. Relaxation becomes a byproduct of that, because when acceptance is increased, you relax.

Start by focusing all your attention to your nostrils, and look at the incoming and outgoing breath, as it comes in, as it goes out. Do not judge whether this moment is pleasant or unpleasant. Learn to be balanced, not reactive, neutral.

Move your attention to the top of your head and see whatever sensation you feel over there. You may not feel any sensation yet. Certainly you will not feel the subtle ones. There are millions of sensations on top of your head that your mind hasn’t been sharpened enough to feel. In time this will come if you persevere. For now, you may feel perhaps some gross sensations, itching, ants crawling, pressure, temperature of some type. Anything, or maybe you’ll feel nothing. It doesn’t matter. It is still an experience. Not feeling anything is still an experience, therefore you just observe, no reaction.

If any thought overpowers you, maybe a recurring thought, then go back to the awareness of breathing in and breathing out for a few seconds, even half a minute if you can. If it’s still overpowering, breathe slightly harder. Not too hard, slightly harder. We don’t want you to hyperventilate. And then as soon as you are aware of the breathing again, the thought is gone, then start slowing down the breathing. And again, when you can slow down the breathing and you feel relaxed again, go back to the sensation where you left and continue scanning the entire scalp area. And then move to the forehead and survey the entire forehead area.

Survey the eyebrows. Start with one, continue with the other. Move down to the nose. Look at any sensation on the nose. Move further down to the mouth. Survey the lips, any sensations in your lips. Look at the tongue, any sensation on the tongue. Of course your mouth is closed, or the lips gently parted, but you are breathing through the nose. Look at the chin, any sensation on your chin. Move up to the left cheek, and then move aside to the right cheek.

If you have any sensation, don’t get attached to it in any way, just move further. Move up to the left ear, and move aside to the right ear. Now survey the throat area, any sensation in the throat area. It can be anything, pain, strain, tingling sensation, itching sensation, pulling, throbbing, sweating. Any sensation is a sensation, it is an experience. Just observe.

Keep moving. When you finish surveying the throat area, survey the entire neck area and move to the left shoulder. In fact, you could start by any shoulder as long as you keep the same order all the time.

Survey the entire left arm and left elbow. Patiently and calmly survey the entire left wrist and left hand. Then go up to the right shoulder.

Move down to the right arm, and the right elbow. Move to the right forearm, and down to the right wrist and the right hand. Then move up to the upper chest area, the upper chest. Piece by piece. Then move down, piece by piece, survey the entire thorax and abdomen area.

If you feel your heartbeat and you interpret it such as that, then you are not looking simply at sensations. You are interpreting the sensations. Try to remain with the task of pure observation, no evaluation, no interpretation. Just observation.

Then move up to the upper back area and look at any sensation you may find in your upper back area. Very calmly, equanimously. And move down to the lower back area. Try not to get caught in your thoughts. As soon as you think something, quickly go back to the awareness of any sensation you were looking at, and move further. Maybe you haven’t felt a sensation for some time, so the mind is bored.

Now keep moving down to the buttocks and survey the entire buttocks area. Start with the left, and once this is surveyed, then move to the right buttock. Move down to the left thigh and survey the entire thigh down to the left knee. Then move down to the left leg.

Even though there may be gross sensations like pain perhaps, or pressure, tension, be very still accepting every experience. Within the worst and most painful sensation, if you come across any today or another day, you will find that if you are very very still, there is an underlying current inside that sensation. An underlying sensation, a flow of very tiny little sensations running through.

Go down now to the left ankle, until you survey the entire left foot. Now go up to the right thigh and survey the entire right thigh, part by part. Keep moving, down to the right knee. The right ankle and the right foot.

You have now surveyed the entire body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Now start from the tip of your toes and go up back to the top of your head. Start from the left foot and move up to the left thigh. And then the right foot, move up to the right thigh. Then survey the buttocks, and the lower back. The upper back, and then the lower abdomen. The entire abdomen and chest. From the upper chest go up to the throat. And from the left hand go up to the left shoulder. From the right hand then, go up to the right shoulder. Survey then the entire neck area, and then the face, part by part, and the entire scalp area.

Scan your body entirely, as long as you can give it time. As you will practice correctly, your mind will become increasingly detached at the deepest level, at the level of body sensations. Remember, the most important thing is that all sensations and all thoughts are temporaryby nature. The impression that they remain is because we react to them, we reinforce them. Reacting to it is only increasing reinforcement and conditioning in daily life.

What you do during this training will be reflected in your daily life. It is a very effective technique. Watch that as you practice, of course you will react, but watch that you react less and less, and the results are surprising.

More about meditation for eating disorders go to http://meditation-sensation.com/

Mindfulness of Breath or Mindful Breathing for Eating Disorder sufferers.

September 21, 2012 – 3:44 am

Mindful breathing originates from Buddhism and it has been taught for centuries. In fact it is one of the major principles of Buddhism and you must learn it first of all in order to be a Buddhist.

We need to learn mindful breathing to be able to control our body and mind as well as our cravings, urges and feelings. When people have eating disorders they don’t breathe properly: their breathing is usually shallow, erratic, superficial, sometimes difficult. How often have you been out of breath – just for no reason at all? How often have you been unable to take a deep breath although you felt like you need one?

Breathing is a vital body function and therefore mindful breathing is an important part of your recovery from an eating disorder.

Now, I ask you to sit in a chair comfortably, or cross-legged on the floor –whatever you like the best. Relax and be mindful. This means you should focus all your attention to your breathing without judgment and reactivity. Just a word of judgment will slow down the healing process significantly, so don’t judge, don’t react. Just surrender.

This set of exercises teaches you to concentrate your attention on your breath without stretching any muscles. This what we call – mindfulness of breathing.

Mindfulness of breathing will make you relax without any stretch, wherever you are, at home, at work, alone, even in bed. Being able to observe the breath and have a degree of control over our reactivity, or perhaps attitude towards the breath is important in the sense that we are starting to learn self control, not just relaxation.

This set of exercises will also help in developing a degree of concentration in your mind. Often our mind is busy, stressed, obsessive, where we repeat over and over negative thoughts, unhelpful thoughts. This exercise will help you focus and remain focused.

Make sure you sit comfortably, in a chair which keeps your back straight, and this time your neck must also be kept straight. Neck straight, back straight, comfortable seated. Focus all your attention at the entrance of your nostrils and be aware of the breath coming in, going out. Simple breath, only breath, your own breath.

Feel the air you breathing – it may feel warm or cold. Just feel it without judging and be simply aware that the air is flowing continuously at the entrance of your nostrils. Notice if it comes more through the right or left nostril, if it deep or shallow, fast or slow.

When you are aware of the incoming and outgoing breath, there is no past or future. You are in the present moment, from moment to moment. Time almost doesn’t exist.

It is not often that your brain is in the present moment. Your mind wanders: in the past, in the future, in other dreams or fantasies but very rarely stays in the present moment. There are reasons for which this occurs. There are parts of the brain which are constantly activated by habit or because there’s a memory that is more or less stressful or emotional. The strength of this activation in the brain is such that we tend to repeat the thought or the memory. And because of this repetition, these pathways in the brain are activated and the thoughts related to these pathways keep intruding. They keep intruding over, and over, and over again, until you stop nurturing them by not thinking them.

Try just observe what is, rather than thinking of what is. Don’t count “One, two, One, two.” Or “In, out, in out…”,. It can actually make you forget about the breath. It can put you right in the mode of thinking, not just observing.

Learn about your own mind by focusing on your breath, from moment to moment, without judging, evaluating, or reacting to the experience. Keep practicing.
For more info about meditation for eating disorders go to http://meditation-sensation.com/

Binge Eating Disorders get Healed with Meditation and Mindfulness.

August 23, 2012 – 3:56 am

Binge eating disorder is called a “disorder” for a reason. All too often, the outside world is quick to judge and come to a premature and uneducated conclusion that people who suffer from this type of disorder are “lazy” or “can choose to eat less if only they wanted to.” This could not be further from the truth.

Binge eating disorder (or, BED) is a diagnosable disorder which is characterized by an inability to control certain impulses that comes from the brain. It is not the fault of the individual; rather it is caused by faulty-wiring deep within the brain. People who have a binge-eating disorder have a hard time with impulse control. Once the urge strikes to eat, they are often powerless against it. It lies within the spectrum of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) whereby, once you get a certain thought in your mind, you are effectively unable to stop yourself from performing the particular action that you’ve found will make you “feel better”. It is only once this action has been completed (in this case, the physical act of binge-eating) that the person finally feels a sense of calm. Unfortunately, this feeling of calm typically does not last for very long and the cycle continues.

After the person eats and the initial calm sets in, making the person feel full and satisfied, the feeling is very quickly replaced by shame, guilt and the familiar question: “How could I have lost control that way!?” The binge-eating is only a very short-term solution to the anxiety. Afterward, depression is quick to set in, the person feels a tremendous sense of angst and shame, and the coping mechanism that they have adapted to get rid of these uncomfortable feelings – to binge-eat – comes back into their mind. Thus, the vicious cycle continues. And it quickly spirals out of control.

But: it is possible to break this cycle! Through mediation and mindfulness, it is possible to calm the rapid-firing signals that your brain sends out which tell you to over-eat. Your brain tells you that it is the only way for you to achieve a sense of inner peace. But with a quieter mind, you can start looking at aspects of your life in a calmer and clearer manner and can “train” your brain to behave in the ways you would like it to. You can attain true inner peace – a peace that is not dictated by the power that food holds over your life. It takes a lot of hard-work and dedication, but you CAN do it. No one can promise that it will be easy… but the end results – better physical and emotional health, happiness, and peace of mind – will be more than worth it. In the long run, the benefits of this hard work greatly outweigh the effort put forth.

Meditation and mindfulness are simply ways of calming the mind and becoming aware of our inner selves. The most important thing to remember about being “mindful” is to focus on the present. It is essential to let go of the past during these times of reflection and to ignore your fears of what the future might hold. These things cease to be important in the here-and-now. What is most important is to quiet your mind and listen to your inner-self in real-time, but in a non-judgemental manner. Don’t let yourself feel shame about things that happened in the past or let yourself worry about things that may or may not happen in the future. They’re not important right now. The exciting thing is, with practice, you can actually succeed in completely changing the dynamic of how your brain works. The rapid-fire message signals in your brain that cause stress (and therefore lead to over-eating) will begin to slow down over time and you will begin to re-discover the person who was trapped within – the one that was being over-shadowed by the obsession with food.

The true measure of “success” through mindfulness and meditation, is to let the wonderful person you are on the inside be the one that gets shown on the outside. Being mindful of your thoughts and feelings, and how they manifest themselves into harmful behaviours, can really be the first step into changing your life and unleashing the real potential of the amazing individual that you KNOW lies within you.

More about meditation for eating disorders on http://meditation-sensation.com

How mindfulness can help to overcome an eating disorder.

August 21, 2012 – 7:41 am

When it comes to dealing with an eating disorder, being self-aware – or mindful – can be one of your most important tools to recovery. Being mindful of your thoughts and feelings (and realizing how these thoughts are subsequently affecting your behavior) is essential to getting healthy. Everywhere you look these days, there are “quick and easy” fixes being offered for every conceivable problem in life. But when it comes to truly conquering an eating disorder, quick and easy just does not cut it. But don’t let that discourage you… There are real solutions.

Eating disorders are deeply rooted within a person’s brain. It’s not something that is the fault of that individual. As much as we would love to snap our fingers and make that part of us disappear, it just doesn’t work that way. It would be wonderful to offer a quick fix to overcome such a serious issue, but it is not practical (nor safe) to do so. But: this does not mean that they are impossible to overcome – quite the contrary! It requires much conscious effort and hard-work, but it is do-able. And being mindful is the way to do it.

Mindfulness is the practice of calming the mind and becoming aware of our inner selves. It’s essential to focus on the now. Let the past go and don’t think about the future. What’s most important is what’s taking place in the present moment. Being mindful about your eating habits can help you discover new paths of healing that will lead you forward in positive ways. Even though many people fall “victim” to eating disorders, it doesn’t mean that you will forever be a victim… You DO have choices and you CAN make steps to heal. But it’s up to you to make that first step.

Being aware of your thoughts seems like a simple concept… But all too often, we refuse to listen to the parts of our minds that tell us to make healthy choices. When we start feeling overwhelmed by stress, the disordered thinking automatically takes over and it becomes “too difficult” to be mindful about the food choices we’re making. It’s “easier”, we believe, to stick with what we know and what feels comfortable to us. And that’s exactly where we go wrong. Because, often, what feels comfortable to us is our disordered thinking. We get trapped into unhealthy cycles that way. In the long run, mindfulness can be what saves us.

Incorporating mindfulness into your daily life can actually be fun and easy. There are many ways to become more self-aware (such as yoga, mantra meditation, or music meditation). You can incorporate other techniques later. But first, start by simply closing your eyes. For just a little while, don’t think – just be. Be attentive to your surroundings – their sounds and smells, the important little things in our immediate environments that we so very often overlook. There is so much beauty to be found in simple things. Find some of those beautiful things. When shame and worry start to creep into your mind, take a deep breath and simply let them go. They have no place in the here-and-now. Right now it is just you and your surroundings. There is no room for shame, worry or fear. Now ask yourself: Without the worries from the past and the fears about the future weighing on my mind, how am I feeling right now?

Practicing mindfulness on a regular basis can help you learn about what makes you tick as an individual. Branch out during these quiet times and start thinking about the things that you personally like about your life. Write these things down in list-form and post it in a prominent place so you can see it every day. Visual reminders such as these can help keep you focused on the positives.

Life is not easy. Especially with such extreme pressures of modern life. Incorporating mindfulness into our lives and into our eating habits gives us the ability to make real and meaningful changes to our lives by making us aware of what we’re doing and by showing us what changes we need to put into place. Because, face it: You can’t change something if you’re not aware of what needs to be done. So, try it! You have nothing to lose and only positive things to gain!
To read more about meditation for eating disorders go to
http://meditation-sensation.com

Eating Disorders and Intuitive Healing.

February 3, 2012 – 9:04 am

Intuition has existed since the dawn of time, when the first hunter-gatherers looked for new hunting grounds sometimes they felt rather than saw or heard where the best catch could be found. Intuition is an ability which exists in all of us; we simply need to look for it, and it can actually be used for healing ourselves and others, once it is found.

Intuitive healing is a healing process when you heal yourself (or others) with the help of your own intuitive voice. It is when you listen to your intuitive voice and interact with it on a higher level.

Eating disorders respond to intuitive healing very well as do many other addictions. The problem with eating disorder sufferers is to hear their own intuitive voice they have to defeat their eating disorder voice. Eating disorder voices are very loud and override all other voices. It takes lots of practice to differentiate between them in your mind.

What is intuition?

Intuition actually means “the ability to acquire knowledge without the use of reason”. The word has been derived from the Latin word “Intueri” which means “to seek inside”. This ability does exist in all of us, we are simply too busy to look for it. Our minds are usually full of noise, especially eating disorder sufferer’s minds.  To hear your intuitive voice you need to blank out all the other noise in your head by clearing your mind.

How can you feel intuition?

Intuition can be felt as a feeling, a hunch, a dream, a sudden thought, a palpable vibration (in more intuitive people) or in countless other ways. The main way that you can distinguish intuition from other thoughts is by the strength of the thought. An intuition thought tells you something out of the blue? It is a feeling that makes you understand something to be true even if all the other senses in your body deny it.

In case of eating disorders the intuitive voice would guide you towards your recovery. If you hear it, it would lovingly tell you to love yourself and divert your thoughts from food to something more positive and constructive.

How can intuition be used for healing?

Most people simply overlook intuition and tend to underestimate its potential. The most important things in intuitive healing are:
– believe that you can be healed by a power that is higher than us.
– always be in a calm, loving state and be connected to the centre of your body
– feel your body’s energy : it can be in a form of subtle vibrations, tingling or other subtle body  sensations.
– ask for the healing of a particular part of the body or mind (this can be done by visualising, or actual asking)

Intuitive healing can be done by connecting to Seven Chakras.

Seven Chakras are seven energy sites that are located within the body. Intuitive healers, shamans and practitioners of Reiki all use these sites to help with the healing process. These chakras run from the tail of the spine all the way to the crown of the head and each part governs a particular functioning of the body. In the case of eating disorders these seven chakras are damaged and doesn’t function properly, blocking the energy flow and making people feel bad.  

Learning about the Seven Chakras and how they transmit and generate energy will help eating disorder sufferers to recover.

Meditation:

Meditation is a tool that will calm your body and mind. Thoughts, emotions and your physiological reactions are linked together. By calming your mind and body you calm your physiological reactions.  Eating disorder sufferers have physiological reactions such as food cravings, urges to overeat and binge, vomiting, anxiety, heart pounding, irritation, moodiness and the like.  With the help of meditation all these physiological reaction will be calmed down.

By connecting to your intuitive voice you will be able to control any eating disorder: anorexia, bulimia or binge eating.   

Believe in it, start learning about it and practice it!  http://www.meditation-sensation.com

Food, Love and Gut Feelings.

January 22, 2012 – 7:01 am

We live in a time when many people are obsessed with food, eating and body image. The other thing everyone wants is love: to have love in their life and to be loved.  And the third thing people talk about nowadays is about intuitive connections with yourself and the ability to listen to your gut feelings which will guide you to where you want to go.

How do you think food, love and gut feelings are connected?  Well, the reality is that how you eat is how you live your life. The way you eat affects everything in your life: relationships, love, self-talk, beliefs and your energy level.

For example, chaotic erratic eating, like in case of eating disorders always bring a chaotic and erratic life. Avoiding certain foods means avoiding something else in your life which is bigger than food: feelings, emotions, responsibilities, certain people or certain situations.

Let’s see how food and love are connected? Simply you can put it like this: abusing food is denying self-love and promoting self-hatred.  People with anorexia deny the self (their life and love); they have extreme fears and self -hatred.

People with bulimia and binge eating also hate themselves. They have too much pain and feelings of guilt and shame (which is all opposite to love).

People who are on constant diets also deny some or many aspects of their love which make them feel very sensitive, unstable, moody and unsafe.

People who constantly overeat (binge eaters and compulsive overeaters) – associate their love with food and eating. For most of them love is food and other forms of love for them become non-existent.

Unless people become aware of what and how they eat, they will remain victims of their obsessions and will never know what love is.

Now let’s look at the relationship between eating and gut feelings.  The gut has its own mind with up to 500 million nerve cells and 100 million neurons in the gut. The gut remembers everything, what you ate, when you ate and in connection to what feelings and emotions you ate and how.

An eating disorder can start from you being upset once and wanting to calm yourself down so you ate. The eating gave a temporary emotional relieve. Your gut remembers this episode and since that time you continued to use food to “make yourself feel good”.  Every time you binge, you lose control and just let go.  These feelings are addictive and very soon you find yourself consumed by a food addiction.

Your gut feelings are supposed to protect you by sending you messages (intuitive voices) but your body stop listening or maybe your gut just shut itself down when you started abusing food. Intuitive feelings stop working also.  That’s why people with eating disorders often find themselves in situations which are uncomfortable and chaotic.

Obsessive eaters, anorexics and bulimics stop hearing the voice of their own selves and stop being connected with there own selves. The only voice they can hear is the voice of their food obsession which tells them only about bad things.

To start hearing their own voice again (the voice of their gut and intuition) people should become aware of how they eat and realize that the way they eat affects their intuition. Then they should try to discern the voices: their own intuitive voice from the rotten voice of their eating disorder. In order to return your intuitive voice you should listen and follow just your own intuitive voice and ignore the ED voice.

Here are the steps:

  1. Accept that the way you eat affects your whole life.
  2. Find out what it is that you are trying to avoid by abusing food (are these emotions, feelings, people or situations)?
  3. Ask yourself: what is my true love? What do I really want in life?
  4. Meditate and during meditation ask “Who am I? What do I want?”
  5. Identify your own intuitive voice: it is a soft, kind, gentle and positive voice.  Listen to it.

 

Freedom from food obsession comes when you realize who you are. When you realize that you are higher than food and that food is only the sustenance to support your body and your body is the temple for your beautiful soul – then you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Loving your soul, listening to your intuitive voice and connecting to your higher self, is the way to recovery and the way to live life.

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Turning off the obsession genes that cause eating disorders.

July 2, 2011 – 3:49 am

By re-identifying your bad eating behavior you can stop your eating disorder – this has been proven more than once.

Some of you may say, “How will I re-identify my behavior to stop my eating disorder?
I got this disease because I have an obsessive gene from my mother. You can’t eradicate this gene from my genetic makeup.”

No, you can’t eradicate the unwanted gene from your genetic makeup and we are not trying to do this. What we are trying to do here is to change your response to the thoughts and feelings your brain generates.

Our genes have two kinds of fundamental properties. One of them is something that is not in our control. We have a certain set of genes we’re born with that keep replicating themselves. 

But the other aspect of our genes is in our control and it can be turned on and off according to how we live our life. This we can do something about, with the help of neuroplasticity.

Our brains are ever changing over the course of our lives. And your brain’s map is going to be determined by what you do day by day. You can start out doing new things today and in three weeks time your brain’s map will be completely different from what it was when you started.

This is what we call brain plasticity (or neuroplasticity), and the human genetic inheritance includes brain plasticity. This process occurs throughout our whole life. Brain plasticity can be controlled and directed if the person is aware of it and if the person wants to change his/her brain.

 It is interesting to note that our genes get turned on and off all the time. Even when you go to sleep some genes are turned on and others are turned off and when you wake in the morning other genes join the game. Research has shown that our thoughts also influence these switches and this gives us a lot more control over our genes that we realise.

 Now, I have the highest regard for genetics, but now it is certain that some aspects of genes can be controlled by our will, life style and habits. Just the fact that the brain can change itself in accordance to what we do and how we think. This means we have to place a lot of importance in the power of free will over our lives.

So, the notion that an obsession gene (that caused your ED ) is controlling your life appears to be false. It is how you perceive and respond to the messages from the environment that controls your life.

If, in your environment you perceive yourself as fat, ugly, anxious or inappropriate and your response to this kind of perception is to starve or binge, purge, take laxatives or over exercising to feel better, then you are letting the environment control you.

 What you should be doing is working through them trying to overcome the false urge? This will make much more of a difference to your outcome than blaming a genetic predisposition for your eating disorder.

Go to http://www.eating-disorders-books.com for more information.

Dr Irina Webster MD.

Shame is one of the roots of anorexia and bulimia.

January 11, 2011 – 1:30 am

Shame plays an important role in developing eating disorders because shame is a controlling device. Basically all people with anorexia or bulimia can recall being shamed or ashamed several times before their disorder began.

Shame is complex. It extends from small things like parents or teachers saying to someone that she/he is a bit overweight and needs to lose weight, or to something more serious like physical or sexual assault. For a young vulnerable person even a wrong look or an inappropriate comment can be shameful and it can trigger control mechanisms in the brain.

The simplest and most available thing that the shamed person has to exert control over is food. Restrictive eating or binging on food and then purge it all up is an action that only the person who is doing it can control. Plus it gives to the sufferer the intimate sense of achievement and conquering their own body. But there is a catch 22, externally the sufferer keeps it a secret because if it was revealed it will be a shameful action if someone was to discover their secret.

So, feelings of shame start working on the sufferer even before the beginning of their illness.  Shame makes the person shrink her/his inner self and avoid others in order to stop interpersonal humiliation. Shame produces resentment, irritability, tendency to blame everyone, suspiciousness and bouts of agitations. Shame also blocks the person’s emotions and makes the person unable to be compassionate to others.

Often family and parents themselves promote shame unknowingly. On different stages of development many children feel inadequate in many tasks. Some parents by criticizing, comparing their children with other kids and controlling them can evoke a lot of shame in their sons and daughters.

Other parental behaviors and styles that provoke shame and body images issues are:

–       avoiding children and avoiding to feel and respond to their emotions

–       being judgmental

–       being constantly angry and disapproving

–       expecting children to please

–       defensive parental attitude

–       being depressed and anxious

–       acting as a victim in front of children

–       being indirect

Turning to food becomes a substitute for non realized emotions in many children. Their mind is searching for a coping mechanism to ease their emotions and food is an easy outlet to find.

For this reason a big part of eating disorder treatment is working on understanding the impact of shame and how to counteract it. The best antidote for shame is compassion, love and understanding. This has to be understood by the sufferer, family and all the people who interact with the sufferer.

The second step is to change the person’s self-talk from negative feelings towards food, to positive feelings about food. These both are important steps in the sufferer’s recovery and have to be done with the help of the whole family and not just with the sufferer.

This may not be an easy thing to do if the family does not understand exactly what to do to help. But luckily there is help available; you can read more at www.mom-please-help.com

Short term effects of bulimia.

January 2, 2011 – 1:47 am

People often ask me about different side effects of bulimia: about short term, long term and the most dangerous ones.  This article is about short term effects which appear soon after bulimia begins.
 
People are also interested if the short term effects are 100% reversible or not. Well, probably most of the short term bulimia effects are reversible but it is also depends on the intensity of the bulimia.

It is also depends on association with other medical and psychological problems the person as at the time they start being bulimic. So, I would say it is all down to the individual and for many people the short term effects are 100%reversable when they stop their bulimia. But there are some people who can have irreversible damage.

Now, let’s look at them – short term effects.
 
1. Digestive system suffers because of vomiting. People experience bloating, indigestion, bad taste in the mouth, breath smells, pains and aches in the stomach, reflux, heart burn and nausea.

2. Swallowing can be painful if throat gets damaged while vomiting.

3. Teeth get eroded quickly from the acid during and after vomiting.

4. Heart problems can become obvious especially in people who purge often.
 
5. Constipation is a common concern in bulimics. It can become complicated with haemorrhoids and tears.
 
6. Low body temperature which makes people sensitive to cold weather. Bulimics are cold most of the time.

7. Tendency to faint.
 
8. Mood swings and intolerance to mental pressure.

9. Getting tired quickly and the inability to concentrate. Even simple mental tasks like reading can make some bulimics tired and even exhausted. Studying and learning can become problematic also.

10. Muscular tension can bring a lot of suffering. It appears as back pains, neck pains, tension headaches and aches or pains in other parts of the body.

11. Depression and anxiety can be very severe. The more people think and act bulimic the more depressed they become.

12. Dry skin is the problem too, accompanied by brittle hair and weak nails. Skin problems can be noticeable on sufferer’s hands especially. Knuckles can be damaged when they induce vomiting. One quick way to see if a loved one is bulimic check their knuckles, they will be all hard and wrinkled.

13. The Immune system can suffer making a person vulnerable to many infections. They experience colds and flu often.

14. People become withdrawn and avoid others.
 
15. Stress levels increases significantly.
 
16. Insomnia is common due to increased stress.

17. Distorted thoughts: constantly thinking about food, even dreaming about it.

18. Menstrual problems can range from painful periods to absence of periods.

19. Bone density decreases. Osteoporosis in severe cases of bulimia.

20. Voice changes due to damaged vocal cords.

These are the most common short term bulimia side effects. There are many more and people get affected by bulimia differently. All side effects can turn into dangerous complications. So the best way to prevent them is to stop your bulimia all together.

 You can always start looking for help: read more about it, educate yourself, ask professionals, work on changing your psychology, change behavioural pattern etc. Never give up and never take the side of disease.

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The most dangerous side effects of bulimia.

December 26, 2010 – 1:40 am

Bulimia causes damaging side effects to the body. It can also destroy the brain, heart and the soul of the person suffering from this eating disorder. There is no one system in the body that does not get affected by long term bulimia.

What are the most dangerous side effects? – You may ask.  These are the effects people can die from.  Lets  look at them separately.

  1. Heart complications. Many eating disorder sufferers have irregular heartbeat, slow pulse or palpitations. All these abnormalities are extremely dangerous especially if the person continues with binging-purging.  People can suddenly collapse and even die if the heart suddenly stops working going into condition called “heart block”.
  2. Electrolyte abnormalities. Electrolytes are the chemicals in the body that help our organs work. When people vomit they lose enormous amount electrolytes this is very bad for the body. The organs that suffer the most are: heart, kidney and brain. An abnormal amount of electrolytes can cause heart block, kidney failure and fainting.  Any of these complications can end up with the sufferer dying.
  3. Kidney failure. The kidneys are the organs that balance water and electrolytes in the body.  Vomiting causes both dehydration and electrolyte imbalance problems. The kidneys try to compensate for this but if the vomiting continues the kidneys stop working and go into kidney failure.
  4. Mental problems. Mental problems in bulimics are especially dangerous because of the high rate of suicide amongst eating disorder sufferers. When people get highly addicted to binging-purging behaviour, they often become unable to cope with everyday life and use suicide as a way to escape from the black circle they find themselves in.
  5. Drug and alcohol problems are often the next step in for the bulimic.  Bulimics get addicted easier than people who don’t have bulimia. This is the nature of the disorder. Of course, where drugs and alcohol are involved the incidence of accidental death increases enormously.  People die from an accidental overdose of drugs and organs failure.
  6. Gullet rapture. Gullet or oesophagus is the tube that connects the mouth and the stomach.   When people vomit they force the food to come up from the stomach, through the gullet and up into the mouth.  If the vomiting becomes severe, gullet rapture can occur.  The sufferer can die from internal bleeding and shock.

To sum up, these are the most dangerous side effects of bulimia. There are many more which may not cause the death of the patient but damage the body and make it malfunction. You can prevent all these complications just by looking for help and doing something constructive about your bulimia.

Even learning more about the condition and what you can do to help yourself will push you forward towards recovery.

Never stop resisting the disease and never give up fighting for your health and your life.  

Bulimia causes damaging side effects to the body. It can also destroy the brain, heart and the soul of the person suffering from this eating disorder. There is no one system in the body that does not get affected by long term bulimia.

To read more about dangerous side effects of bulimia go to http://www.Mom-Please-Help.com